You’ll save yourself heartache and self-doubt if you remember that not every rejection is personal. I’ve met men who prefer chubby women, and others who only like very slender women. Sometimes you’re just not their type, and it has nothing to do with you.
A Movie Lover’s Favorites to help you through the pandemic #13: Babette’s Feast (1987). This movie won the 1987 Academy Award for Best Foreign Film. If you like cooking shows you’ll love this lyrical movie. It contains one of my favorite cinematic lines: “An Artist is never poor. “ Slowly sip a good glass of wine and enjoy.
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A Movie Lover’s Favorites to get you through the pandemic #9: Postcards From the Edge(1990.) This movie is based on Carrie Fisher’s book and is funny and touching. It has one of the most insightful mother/daughter relationships ever depicted on screen, and stars the incomparable Meryl Streep and Shirley MacLaine. They both sing in this film. Watch for the great closing number and don’t stop until the credits are over.
A Movie Lover’s Favorites to get you through the pandemic #8: Apocalypse Now (1979). I advise watching it with the lights low in one sitting. The bigger the screen the better. It will blow your mind.
A Movie Lover’s Favorites to get you through the pandemic #7: Weekend (2011.) You don’t need big production values to make a perfect film. This small gem of a movie has big themes. It’s about a brief but heartfelt love affair. I own two movies, and this is one of them. Snuggle in bed with your sweetie and watch it together.
A Movie Lover’s Favorites to get you through the pandemic #6: City Lights (1931). The Little Tramp, Charlie Chaplin’s alter ego, is at his best in this movie. It’s a comedy and a love story, and has the most poignant ending ever captured on film. Put some Kleenex by the couch because you may need it
A Movie Lover’s favorites to get you through the pandemic #3: Wings of Desire (1987). This German movie is the cinematic equivalent of great jazz. It’s a mood piece about an angel who tires of helping others and falls in love with a woman. The scene where they meet will stir your soul. The film is poetic and haunting. Watch it with someone you love and you will love them more deeply when it’s over.
Running a therapy group on happiness is one of my favorite job responsibilities. There’s a huge industry focused on happiness. While doing research for the group, I learned that optimism boosts happiness, so we discuss this concept in the group. Like many of the things that make people happy, optimism may be innate, or we may have to mindfully develop the habits and skills that boost this attitude. Here’s my template for optimism: Be hopeful. Show up. Do your best. Let go. Repeat. Over the years, I’ve found it’s a winning formula.